According to Noel Coward, the consummate combination of chic and cheek, “It’s wonderful what a little determined charm can do”. Now if you are looking for effective ways to get a girlfriend, step up your seductive arts with a little more determination.

Men and Seduction

The art of seduction is not exclusive for women. But there is nothing like seducing women with flair. The trick though is using reverse psychology as part of your seduction strategies, not flexing your muscles or crooning the Great Sinatra style to get a girl interested and become a loyal girlfriend.

It not hard work to get a girl disarmed and charmed but women are easily turned off when a man shows his desperate need for a girlfriend. If you have been rejected in the past, you are probably guilty of being desperate and needy for feminine affection. No wonder you are still desperate.

In the art of seducing women, it is a rule NOT to show you are overly anxious to win her and NOT to tell her you want her to be your girlfriend when she is not ready yet. In the first scenario, she will hate your style and be embarrassed by your bumbling efforts and in the second, you will scare her off. Your seduction should be determined but SUBTLE.

These 3 Seduction Strategies will Nab You a Girlfriend

• Show her what a great boyfriend you can be but let on that you are busy with your exciting life. A woman becomes too interested when a man shows he’s not too interested (how’s that for reverse psychology?) but can still give her affectionate attention whenever she is around. Won’t it be nice to have her devising ways to attract you? That is it guys, don’t be a beggar for affection but give it lavishly (as you would your best girl friends) without telling her upfront you want her for a girlfriend – not yet.

• Be at the right places. Of course you don’t tail her like a snoop or follow her like a lost puppy. Knowing where she hangs out with friends and popping up as if you don’t expect her to be around is a studied art of seduction.

The more she sees you, the more she remembers you. The more time she spends talking to you, the better to prep her for a date. But don’t be too eager – the invitation to a date must be casual – like you remembered a nice place where great coffee is served and a date at Starbucks does not sound threatening, there you are.

• Use hypnosis. Yes there are hypnosis strategies to get her hooked on you. The technique does not require great skill and years of study. You can do the hypnosis following expert instruction and it just takes a few minutes to get her emotionally dependent on you. When she becomes emotionally hooked on you, she will follow you to the ends of the world.

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Starting up a conversation with a girl can be intimidating and sometimes even a tad bit stressful. The more you like her, the stupider you are liable to feel. But, there are ways to get past this and get on with the conversation. There are ways to make her literally fall in love and become completely infatuated with you and only you to the point where she will not be able to stop thinking about you.

Here are the three simple secrets you need to know right now:

1.Since she is so beautiful and you are so nervous, one of only two things can happen. Either you suck it up and go over and start up a conversation with her, or you can become so completely wrapped up in your fear that nothing happens and she never notices you. Women like a confident guy who doesn’t let their insecurity get in the way. You are going to have to get over all of those insecure thoughts floating around in your head and approach her. If you are not confident, at least pretend you are. It will pay off.

2.Once you get over the hardest part (which is approaching her), you have practically gotten it all taken care of. Now, all you have to do is speak. Simply tell her what your name is, your age if you prefer, whether you are there alone or with friends, etc. Use small talk to break the ice. Once you have introduced yourself, just stand there and let her do all the talking. Ask her what her name is, where she is from, etc. Really listen to her when she talks. Women love a guy who lets them talk, and for that reason, she will find you even more interesting. Just agree with what she says and be sincere.

3.If there is an awkward silence, simply ask her another question about the things she has previously expressed. Be careful not to go into too many conversations about yourself. It seems harsh, but women really do not like hearing about the biggest fish you caught on your last camping trip. Most women like to discuss things such as favorite restaurants, what is happening in the news, their favorite television shows, etc. Find something you have in common with her by asking subtle questions. Once you have reached some common ground, run with it. Always add a bit of humor into your conversations because women love to laugh.

Once you have gotten the ball rolling, getting the girl you want to like you will be as simple as pie. It really all boils down to good manners. Remember the things your mother taught you when you were a kid? Listen when you are spoken to, do not speak when someone else is talking, open doors for other people, always smile, dress nicely, and always say thank you, etc. If you just stick to what is simple and proven to work, you will have no problems in the romantic department.

Under normal circumstances, asking for a girl’s phone number is not rocket science. But when the situation is about a girl you want to date, you have to plot smart ways to have her handing over her phone number, short of hypnotizing her into submission. But in real life, that’s a no go.

The Approach

Style and timing of the approach is crucial when you want to ask a girl her phone number. In this age of stalkers and wackos, girls are extra careful and giving their phone numbers to casual acquaintances (which includes you) and strangers, can be dangerous to their health. So sauntering over to a girl because you like her face and figure and want her phone number is not advised, even for the expert girl chasers.

1. Create the stage. It takes real acting and creating a dramatic situation to stop a girl on her tracks but you never ask for her phone number outright. If you happen to see a cute female specimen in a shop go to the counter where’s she is inspecting some stuff. You must bump “accidentally” and ask for her excuses before telling her you’re in a fix figuring out what to buy for a naughty kid sister. Before she can protest, smile and ask her if she can suggest anything (with a woeful mask on your face).

Ask her if she has a kid brother or sister, nephews or nieces (just to be sure) to get her into talking about crazy kids. Kids like dogs are sure-fire icebreakers and are not threatening issues. She’ll take on the challenge, listen and discuss some points about her proposal and wham! Pretend you are catching the next train. Would she please give you her number so you follow up on her other suggestions as you cannot afford to disappoint this demanding kid sister?

2. Put on your best manners. Your mom was never wrong about the good manners she instilled in your head. Put your good manners on display before, during, and after that “chance” encounter. Girls like men who have good manners. Oh but you must still to have a reason for asking her phone number. In a subway, look like a little-boy lost and approach the girl anxiously and timidly with a friendly smile plastered all over your face.

She will give directions and if she’s alone you can continue with your drama. Now, the test, thank her profusely emphasizing you are new to the place and you are alone and don’t know nobody yet in this strange city. Would it be alright to have her phone number because you need a friend? Give her your phone number too – but be the first to call or she will think it would be bad for her feminine charms to make the first call.

3. Be sensitive to her body language. Her smile and the way her body leans towards you are signs she is a friendly girl and can be a super girlfriend.

Now use that phone number to good uses and good luck. Oh, one last thing, be casual about it.