Men and Seduction

The art of seduction is not exclusive for women. But there is nothing like seducing women with flair. The trick though is using reverse psychology as part of your seduction strategies, not flexing your muscles or crooning the Great Sinatra style to get a girl interested and become a loyal girlfriend.

It not hard work to get a girl disarmed and charmed but women are easily turned off when a man shows his desperate need for a girlfriend. If you have been rejected in the past, you are probably guilty of being desperate and needy for feminine affection. No wonder you are still desperate.

In the art of seducing women, it is a rule NOT to show you are overly anxious to win her and NOT to tell her you want her to be your girlfriend when she is not ready yet. In the first scenario, she will hate your style and be embarrassed by your bumbling efforts and in the second, you will scare her off. Your seduction should be determined but SUBTLE.

These 3 Seduction Strategies will Nab You a Girlfriend

• Show her what a great boyfriend you can be but let on that you are busy with your exciting life. A woman becomes too interested when a man shows he’s not too interested (how’s that for reverse psychology?) but can still give her affectionate attention whenever she is around. Won’t it be nice to have her devising ways to attract you? That is it guys, don’t be a beggar for affection but give it lavishly (as you would your best girl friends) without telling her upfront you want her for a girlfriend – not yet.

• Be at the right places. Of course you don’t tail her like a snoop or follow her like a lost puppy. Knowing where she hangs out with friends and popping up as if you don’t expect her to be around is a studied art of seduction.

The more she sees you, the more she remembers you. The more time she spends talking to you, the better to prep her for a date. But don’t be too eager – the invitation to a date must be casual – like you remembered a nice place where great coffee is served and a date at Starbucks does not sound threatening, there you are.

• Use hypnosis. Yes there are hypnosis strategies to get her hooked on you. The technique does not require great skill and years of study. You can do the hypnosis following expert instruction and it just takes a few minutes to get her emotionally dependent on you. When she becomes emotionally hooked on you, she will follow you to the ends of the world.

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Here are the three simple secrets you need to know right now:

1.Since she is so beautiful and you are so nervous, one of only two things can happen. Either you suck it up and go over and start up a conversation with her, or you can become so completely wrapped up in your fear that nothing happens and she never notices you. Women like a confident guy who doesn’t let their insecurity get in the way. You are going to have to get over all of those insecure thoughts floating around in your head and approach her. If you are not confident, at least pretend you are. It will pay off.

2.Once you get over the hardest part (which is approaching her), you have practically gotten it all taken care of. Now, all you have to do is speak. Simply tell her what your name is, your age if you prefer, whether you are there alone or with friends, etc. Use small talk to break the ice. Once you have introduced yourself, just stand there and let her do all the talking. Ask her what her name is, where she is from, etc. Really listen to her when she talks. Women love a guy who lets them talk, and for that reason, she will find you even more interesting. Just agree with what she says and be sincere.

3.If there is an awkward silence, simply ask her another question about the things she has previously expressed. Be careful not to go into too many conversations about yourself. It seems harsh, but women really do not like hearing about the biggest fish you caught on your last camping trip. Most women like to discuss things such as favorite restaurants, what is happening in the news, their favorite television shows, etc. Find something you have in common with her by asking subtle questions. Once you have reached some common ground, run with it. Always add a bit of humor into your conversations because women love to laugh.

Once you have gotten the ball rolling, getting the girl you want to like you will be as simple as pie. It really all boils down to good manners. Remember the things your mother taught you when you were a kid? Listen when you are spoken to, do not speak when someone else is talking, open doors for other people, always smile, dress nicely, and always say thank you, etc. If you just stick to what is simple and proven to work, you will have no problems in the romantic department.

The Approach

Style and timing of the approach is crucial when you want to ask a girl her phone number. In this age of stalkers and wackos, girls are extra careful and giving their phone numbers to casual acquaintances (which includes you) and strangers, can be dangerous to their health. So sauntering over to a girl because you like her face and figure and want her phone number is not advised, even for the expert girl chasers.

1. Create the stage. It takes real acting and creating a dramatic situation to stop a girl on her tracks but you never ask for her phone number outright. If you happen to see a cute female specimen in a shop go to the counter where’s she is inspecting some stuff. You must bump “accidentally” and ask for her excuses before telling her you’re in a fix figuring out what to buy for a naughty kid sister. Before she can protest, smile and ask her if she can suggest anything (with a woeful mask on your face).

Ask her if she has a kid brother or sister, nephews or nieces (just to be sure) to get her into talking about crazy kids. Kids like dogs are sure-fire icebreakers and are not threatening issues. She’ll take on the challenge, listen and discuss some points about her proposal and wham! Pretend you are catching the next train. Would she please give you her number so you follow up on her other suggestions as you cannot afford to disappoint this demanding kid sister?

2. Put on your best manners. Your mom was never wrong about the good manners she instilled in your head. Put your good manners on display before, during, and after that “chance” encounter. Girls like men who have good manners. Oh but you must still to have a reason for asking her phone number. In a subway, look like a little-boy lost and approach the girl anxiously and timidly with a friendly smile plastered all over your face.

She will give directions and if she’s alone you can continue with your drama. Now, the test, thank her profusely emphasizing you are new to the place and you are alone and don’t know nobody yet in this strange city. Would it be alright to have her phone number because you need a friend? Give her your phone number too – but be the first to call or she will think it would be bad for her feminine charms to make the first call.

3. Be sensitive to her body language. Her smile and the way her body leans towards you are signs she is a friendly girl and can be a super girlfriend.

Now use that phone number to good uses and good luck. Oh, one last thing, be casual about it.

Connect Emotionally

It is all a matter of style and the occasion. You can charm your way to a woman’s focus, lie through your teeth to get her attention but you cannot get her to be your girlfriend if you freeze at her appearance or panic when she talks to you. How would you get the emotional ball rolling if you turn to stone the minute she shows up?

When you want a girl or any pretty girl to notice you – look nice, smell nice, talk nice and last but not to be dismissed, are your manners. These prerequisites work like a charm on any woman.

You don’t walk up to a hot chick and blurt out you want her to be your girlfriend. With long time friends, you cannot do the same. Get her approval first without being blunt about it and gain her trust before you make any moves. If you know what gets her going show both energy and enthusiasm for it.

Keep her adrenalin on speed whenever she starts chatting you up. Hold her hand to show your excitement and establish physical contact slowly and unobtrusively. If she does not jerk back when you hold her hand or when you hug her, the emotional connection has been established. Congratulations! The stage is set towards a romantic relationship. But remain the master of the hunt or end up like a puppet on a chain.

Stay Cool but Not Too Cool

Girls are attracted to men who keep to themselves but who are genuinely friendly. This is the beginning of the hunt. You do not go all over a girl when you she bestows on you her attention but when she starts to feel comfortable with you, she has begun to like you and trust you.

With her trust established, it makes it easier for you to show her that she is extra special. Safeguard this connection and act like her protective boyfriend; when she responds to your attentions, ask her to be your girlfriend but at the right time – when she is feeling good with you and likes to be with you.

For Heaven’s Sake, Talk to Her and Listen

It can be nerve-wracking to start up a conversation with a girl who makes your heart do silly things and when you want her attention so much it hurts. Just start up a simple chat – start with the weather. It is amazing how this overused ice-breaker can still lead to interesting exchanges. If there is reason to compliment her, do so. Your compliment will make her day.

Get her Number

Do not forget your manners too when you engaged an interesting woman in a friendly conversation and when talk is getting that interesting, find an excuse and the courage to ask for her number, it’s now or never.

Hypnotize Her

If she doesn’t respond to these practical strategies, go hypnotize her. There are hypnotic strategies to get this girl’s undivided attention and keep her thinking about you and finally make her your girlfriend.

1. All women are self-conscious about their weight, even if they are 5′5 and weight only 110 pounds. Most of them will always view themselves as being at least slightly overweight. It is your job as a guy to reassure them that they are thin, beautiful, and that no other woman has anything on them when it comes to looks. So, when a girl asks you, “do I look fat or overweight in this? never say, “Yes”. You are practically begging her to break up with you when you make any sort of reference to her as being fat. “Do I look fat?” is probably one of the most frequently asked and annoying questions asked by women. But no matter what, remember that the answer is always, “no, you do not look fat”.

2. It is a known fact that all women love to talk. If they had it their way, that is all they would do. Talking is how they sort out their feelings and deal with just about every aspect in life. Unlike males, women never run out of things to say. Men are very different in this area, even when it comes to listening. They seem to have this almost magical “tune out” button that comes on out of nowhere, especially when they are around women – even the one’s the like. One of the worst things a guy can tell a woman is that she talks too much. Never say that, no matter what. It will only hurt her feelings and make her feel disrespected. It may seem difficult, especially for a guy, but instead of telling her to “shut up”, or “you talk to much”, just listen the best you can or simply change the subject to something more interesting in a polite manner.

3. If the girl you are in love/deep like with wants to make out, let her make the first move. Showing interest in her personality first is what will make her want to kiss you. A woman wants nothing to do with a guy who is shallow and only after one thing. Rudeness, disrespect, and selfishness are what women try to steer clear from. Let her be the one who sends the signals and signs she wants to kiss you. Never tell her, “let’s just hurry up and get it over with”, or “let’s make out already”. Saying these things will cause her to view you as hasty and impatient. Not to mention, saying these things will kill the mood and turn her off completely.

Avoiding making these mistakes will take you a long way in life when it comes to gaining respect and recognition from women. Always remember that women love men whom they feel are sweet, nice, and confident. Cockiness, arrogance, and rudeness are never good qualities to possess around a woman. Focus on only saying this which is positive when you are around the girl you like. And if you have to think twice about it, it is better to just keep it to yourself.